This concept--the Spheres of Control--posits that the things we're worried about or that we complain about fall into three domains: things we have control over, things we can influence, and things that are outside of our control and influence. When I hear a coachee talking about something that he is unhappy about, I listen through this framework and try to identify where this issue would fall.
Resolutions are intentions to make change, shift behaviors, and improve our lives. Good ideas, but I don't make New Year's resolutions.
This week I have a guest blogger for you, Laurelin Andrade, offering a wise and insightful reflection on the pace of coaching.
Here's a startling fact: some sixty-five percent of what we communicate is conveyed through our body language, pitch, volume, and tone of voice. The words we select (sometimes so carefully and thoughtfully) only comprise around thirty percent of the message that our audience receives.
Did you know that November 4 is National Coach Appreciation Day? Well, it is!...But I want to back up a bit and tell you the story of how I came to this decision.
Albert Einstein once said that if he had an hour to save the world he would spend fifty-five minutes defining the problem and five minutes finding the solution. This suggestion gets to the heart of coaching in proposing a ratio of thinking to acting in response to what we perceive as a problem.
Planning for a coaching conversation is similar in some ways to planning a lesson--we construct a couple clear goals, design a route to meet those goals, anticipate the challenges that might arise, and review material that might be helpful.
I want to make another suggestion for coaching new teachers that is super high leverage and I can almost guarantee that it'll shift a teacher's practice. Here it is: Get in there and do some model teaching.
This is the time of year when I fantasize that all coaches, everywhere, are deep in the process of creating work plans...But what I really want to share with you is this graphic...
I've received a number of emails asking for advice when coaching new teachers--especially during these often challenging fall months. Let's start with considering what new teachers need...