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A group of San Francisco 1st graders took a field trip to City Hall with a twist: They went to surprise their lesbian teacher on her wedding day, according to the San Francisco Chronicle. The students blew bubbles and tossed rose petals outside the main doors, and then crowded their teacher with hugs as she and her new wife exited the ceremony.

The field trip occurred less than a month before voters in California will make a decision on Proposition 8, which aims to outlaw gay marriage and prevent students from learning about same-sex marriage in school.

Interim director of Creative Arts Charter School, Liz Jaroflow, condoned the parent-proposed excursion, calling it a “teachable moment” and stating, “it's certainly an issue I would be willing to put my job on the line for." The 18 students who attended had parental permission. Two students whose families chose to opt out were placed in another first grade classroom for the 90-minute duration.

Still, proponents of Prop. 8 lambasted the activity. "It's just utterly unreasonable that a public school field trip would be to a same-sex wedding," Chip White, press secretary for the Yes on 8 campaign, said. "This is overt indoctrination of children who are too young to have an understanding of its purpose."

Parents at Creative Arts who supported the trip are planning to make a video with the children describing what marriage means to them. One attending six-year-old said simply, “it’s people falling in love. You stay with someone the rest of your life.”

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This is social indoctrination at the HIGHEST level. Students probably should go to ANY wedding ... is that math, history, science???? Liz put her job on the line; she should lose it and quickly.

That should be a "not go" in my first post ... time for new glasses :)

I applaud Ms. Jaroflow's courage to allow this field trip to take place. What an amazing way to learn about civil rights! I would be proud to teach at a school that promotes such tolerance and open-mindedness for everyone regardless of race, class, or sexual orientation. This is truly a lesson that these children will remember for the rest of their lives.

For those who were so outraged that this field trip was allowed to take place, please keep in mind that this was an idea supported and permitted by the parents. If they didn't have a problem with their child attending, why do you?

Whether you agree or disagree with the marriage, how is this apart of school life? Should we bring students to see things we (whoever that is) approve of just because we approve of them?

Indoctrination? Or lessons of acceptance and tolerence?

I remember watching the local tv station cover a wedding for guinea pigs in a kindegarten class. This is indoctrination in teaching that babies can't happen without a wedding. Not my opinion, but I wouldn't work to forbid it.

Yes, the groom looked great in his top hat and the bride was great in her veil and yes it was a VERY small town. :)

The point is, 'indoctrination happens' - whether it be this type or that type.

School is not, should not and cannot be 'divorced' from the real world.

Dare I use that word?

C

Okay, why would this be scheduled for during school hours unless it was planned all along to have the kids there? Why didn't they get married on a weekend when it would be easier for friends and family to attend? Why did the teacher have to miss school? Seems like having the kids there was probably the plan all along.

pl's..get back to holly book

I have mixed feelings about this. Obviously, parents chose whether or not their child attended, but why was a parent allowed to organize a "field trip." In my district, teachers or principals must submit a written request for field trips, and we must include state standards that will be met by attending this field trip. This request is then reviewed and approved (or not) by the school board and the director. Also, we cannot use parent transportation for field trips, due to liability issues. Was this a field trip, or did the parents just not send their child to school? Who took the students to the wedding? If each individual parent took their child to the wedding, then it really wasn't a field trip. Despite my personal opinion about same-sex marriages, I have no problem with this as long as the parents chose whether or not their child attended.

What a great way to give children a first-hand opportunity to witness how social change and historical shifts happen often in the most personal settings. As to why the wedding happened during school hours, perhaps city hall is not open for weddings on the weekend. I know that's the case where I live.

I wonder how many of those railing against a parent sponsored and approved field trip would have a problem if a field trip took children to hear one of thse hate spewing ministers?

Why shouldn't they go to a teacher's wedding. She is obviously loved by the children and how better to see that love is love and commitment can be between whomever. What are people afraid of? And as for schools regs missing ninety minutes of school will not impair these first graders for life. Or for the next 90 minutes. When there is so much hate in the world a chance to see love in action surely is a good thing.

They didn't see love in action ... they saw a wedding which was clearly aimed at a political agenda. Let's call this what it is.

Years ago, there would have been equal screaming about children attending a mixed-race wedding. If the parents approve and the school signs off, the rest of us really have no right to judge. These children clearly love their teacher and they should be able to attend her wedding - REGARDLESS of who she is marrying - if the proper paperwork is done. I want my students to understand there are many different lifestyles and all have their place in our world, even if they are different. This is a fact of life and all children can benefit from lessons in tolerance. Depending on how the students follow-up on it, there are smart ways to fit it into standard curriculum.

Years ago, there would have been equal screaming about children attending a mixed-race wedding. If the parents approve and the school signs off, the rest of us really have no right to judge. These children clearly love their teacher and they should be able to attend her wedding - REGARDLESS of who she is marrying - if the proper paperwork is done. I want my students to understand there are many different lifestyles and all have their place in our world, even if they are different. This is a fact of life and all children can benefit from lessons in tolerance. Depending on how the students follow-up on it, there are smart ways to fit it into standard curriculum.

I wanted to clarify for Library Liz why this wedding was held during the middle of the day on a school day and why it was not as she suggested "planned all along."

Proposition 8 threatens to take away the right for same sex couples to get married. As the election draws closer, city hall has been inundated with marriage ceremonies and the ceremonies are actually being scheduled every thirty minutes to accommodate all those who want to be married before November 4th. SF City Hall performs marriage ceremonies Monday through Friday from 9:00 to 3:30, which also happens to be school hours.

As for why this teacher was out of her classroom, I can't think of a better reason to miss a few days of school than your own wedding. I got married last year and was out of my classroom for a week. I left wonderful sub plans and my students did just fine without me.

I feel blessed that I did not have to rush to get married by an election deadline for fear that my right to do so would be taken away from me in a few weeks.

My best wishes to this beautiful couple!

First and formost why did a public school pay for this field trip? Oh, excuse me they didn't. The tax payers did. Why don't we ask all the tax payers who puts hundreds of dollars into the school system what they think about their money being spent to send children to a same-sex marriage. Even if you don't think it didn't cost anything, ask yourself what did they ride in? A substitute teacher had to be paid along with the teacher of the students was still being paid even on her day off. All these small insignificant items add up. Second and the most important thing. Subjecting our innocent children to this act was not only propostrous but deteriation of the mind. We have gone far enough. How much farther are we going to go? Sodom and Gomorrah

The point isn't whether gay people should get married, it's whether it's the function of SCHOOL to provide them with this experience. Would it be a good idea to bring students to a wedding of two men and one women who "love" each other just to broaden their experiences. This is NOT the function of school....

So if Prop. 8 is tolerance, what's next? A marriage of a brother and sister, man and dog, mother and son? (Dare I say, teacher and student?) Since they love each other it makes it okay, right? Where will it end?
BTW, is this teacher planning on taking students to other weddings to teach diversity of culture and tolerance?

How wonderful that a teacher wanted to share her special day with her students, and that a principal saw this as a "teachable moment." We teach values and mores in our classrooms everytime we say "Suzi, be nice to Johnny," no matter what race or sex the two are part of. First graders don't necessarily know or need to know the issues of same-sex marriage. All they knew was that they were a part of their beloved teacher's happy moment. The thought did occur to me - I wonder how many of those children have two mommies or two daddies?

May I ask if "every parent approve of this field trip?" Just because one suggested the idea does not mean the parent or parents of the other children don't have a say in this issue. And really, to send 1st graders to such an event makes me sick; they are too young to be introduced to such things. In my opinion Liz Jaroflow had no right ot approve of such a trip without first gaining consent from all parents. She ought to be fired immediatley.

Wow, I'm ashamed to have read this story. As an American and an active duty member of the United States Marine Corps, what have I been fighting for? Why have I put my life in danger? The constitution? Morals? A freedom of choice, speach, religion? These freedoms are for all, and no where in the Bill of Rights or the Constitution dose it state the one's free choice can be forced on another. Reguardless of these parents choosing, remove the sex of the wedding, excuse the variables many have included in their own opinions. THIS WAS WRONG. I send my boys to school to learn an education of math, science, history, english, the foundation of knowledge. When they are more mature and able to make their own decisions, maybe in Jr. High, they will be ready to choose their own way. Untill that time, I WILL TEACH THEM. I will tell they about love, to work hard, to care for their family, to be a man and own up to responsibilities! This nation was built on such building blocks! This is not a subject in the curriculum that I am aware of. When I was a boy, we took field trips to the petting zoo, museums, state parks. Why are my children in jeopardy of missing out on these things because the school budget spent the field trip funds on a sub and bus to send the class to "witness love". They can see that at home with my wife and I, and I can teach them love by being a damn good father.

All children who went were given permission by their parents. It is not a field trip that harms the children. It doesn't celebrate 5 adults being married, or animals or incest - but two unrelated adults consenting to a life together. It is a wedding. Anyone who doesn't understand the idea of teachable moments and parental choice is the one with the real political/religious agenda, not the school or the teacher.

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