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After a year-long courtship, 28-year-old Melody LaLuz and 30-year-old Claudaniel Fabien sealed their wedding vows with a kiss. Their first kiss.

According to the Chicago Tribune, the bride and groom teach abstinence courses to Chicago public school teenagers and made a commitment to practice what they preach. While dating, in addition to abstaining from kissing, the two made sure they were never alone. They watched movies together, but remained vertical rather than lying down or cuddling on the couch. Fabien found other ways to show his affection—such as cleaning LaLuz’s car and washing the dishes. "It really tested us and encouraged us to grow closer in our hearts and our minds, just expressing things verbally," Fabien said.

With the long awaited words "You may now kiss the bride," the couple locked lips for two minutes, reported the Associated Press. Behind them a cacophony of claps, stomps, and cheers resounded from their 500 wedding guests.

The newlyweds will spend their honeymoon in the Bahamas. They have no plans to go snorkeling.

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Good for you! What tremendous role models for the children of today!

Getting kissed and having sex are two different things. I think it is a bit uptight not to kiss when you are adults in love. Then again, I can imagine working with middle school children who don't cherish that special kiss with their loved one since they do it all the time indiscriminantly.
Kind words can be more powerful than a kiss can. To each his own, but it's not for me. I'm glad there's people like that out there. The world is sure an interesting place.

There is more to "alone time" than sex. It's your opportunity to truly get to know one another, the other's thoughts, dreams, insecurities, history, quirks or idiosyncrasies, sense of humor, fears... The list goes on. If there is always a friend in the room, you are missing out on one of life's greatest intimacies - and one that should definitely precede the trip down the aisle.

Sounds weird! Virtuousness is an admirable quality, but anything to an extreme makes me wonder. At what point does virtue becomes obsessive behavior? That couple’s obsessive behavior deals with body, purity/contamination, and love. I prefer teachers to project themselves as “real” people, someone I could be like, not people that are out of touch (with themselves and others). I was not a precocious teen nor am I a reckless adult, but I think that it's part of being alive to want to be close to others in various ways. Regulating our bodies, physical behavior, and sexuality is important, but everything in balance and for pragmatic purposes. Some people have an unhealthy obsession with regulating what others should and shouldn't do. But hey, if that couple decided they wanted their relationship to be a teaching exercise, that's their thing. I prefer that my loving relationships be personal and not necessarily motivated by a desire to teach others about how virtuous I am or how they should behave.

I disagree that kissing and having sex are two different things, at least in context of a romantic relationship. They are, rather, two points on a single continuum. And it is a slippery slope continuum at that, with one stage easily leading to the next, especially in a culture that encourages and holds going all the way down as the norm.

Great kudos to this couple for saying that the whole continuum belongs within the context of a lifetime commitment only! It is a rare and admirable stance to be willing to face the kind of ridicule they inevitably get for going against the norm. And I'm pretty sure, having known others who feel the same way as they do, that the teaching exercise is icing, not the reason for their stance in itself.

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